HATER REHAB: My hour with Kim Kardashian

I recently gained a new perspective for Kim Kardashian, one of the Key Note Speakers at BlogHer16. Her two mantras were universal and useful.

“Be the best you – do what is within your comfort zone and what makes you feel confident!” 

“More Love, No Hate.” 

We all have a right to define our personal boundaries. We also have a right to our personal reaction when those boundaries are crossed. Sometimes these actions result in a traffic jam of haters.

I’m not just exposing internet trolls here. Everyone’s interacted with at least one other person resulting in our strong reaction to their action: “MFer cut me off!” …or inaction: “Why didn’t they thank me for the date?”

Here’s where it gets all Fox in Socks, while we discuss our actions following our reaction to the other person’s actions.

Reality Check

  • Mind Control – I can’t telekinetically take over their car forcing a safe lane change. Nor will a bird from you make them feel regret. Hateful comments won’t cause Kim to live your definition of life.
  • Assuming, it’s true – You know what they say when someone assumes. We truly have no idea what goes on in others’ lives. Be compassionate with friends, family and strangers – we all carry the burden of our own personal stress and goals. Kim challenges her haters to sit down and talk to her.
  • Don’t Should on Others – This tells more about us than them. Perhaps you’re not feeling like the most confident you, offloading on or trying to control others really won’t improve your mood.
  • What Is My Motivation – Actors question this a lot when considering how to deliver a believable role and speak authentically – as should you when considering your ACTion.
  • Spoon Full of Sugar is BS – Sorry my beloved Mary, P. but sugar coating only makes you feel like you’ve delivered a pretty gift when the recipient can still see the shit through the wrapping.
  • We Have a Right to our Opinion – True, just like we have a right to ignore it.
  • Just don’t Joust – Engaging in battle takes everyone farther from that day’s goals – everyone’s late, flustered, mad and hopefully nothing worse. Kim ignores haters so it’s not their voice she hears, but her own guiding her to be the best her.

 

Hater Rehab:

  • Was your intended response meant to get respect or get even?
  • To make people feel better or worse?
  • If the latter, for either, is respect deserved?

Unless someone is about to chase their Pokémon into a busy intersection, respect their path. It’s not our place to interject or attempt to convert their reaction to one we are satisfied with.

All together now… we all have a right to our opinions, our reactions to other people’s actions (which we can’t control). We only control and take responsibility for our actions. Nobody makes us feel anything we don’t want to.

That crazy driver didn’t make you mad. You chose to get mad in reaction to a near miss. Did you go on the date so you would get thanks and brownie points or did you go on a date to spend more time with someone you have feelings for? Seen too much of Kim lately? Lest you forgot, you’re in control of how much internet and social media enters your home or the teachable moments (as opposed to swift judgement) that can result.

Finally, she shared how she and her husband Kanye have helped bring out the best in each other – which is what loved ones do. As Kim will tell you, it’s never too late to reinvent yourself!

 

 

 

HERE’S WHY YOU SHOULD RUN AWAY TO THE CIRCUS

The next time The Ringling Brothers and Barnum & Bailey circus passes through your town, here’s why you absolutely must get up off the couch and see this show! I was fortunate enough to see the World Premiere in Los Angeles. While Feld Entertainment (producers of the show) promised it’d be better than ever, since retiring their trademark elephants, I am here to say they slightly missed their mark. They didn’t just “do better,” they launched their circus into a new dimension light years away! The show is truly Out of this World.  
The Ringling Bros. put on a tremendous show for a hometown price. From the first dramatic moment when the Simet Spacewalkers demonstrated graceful balance and agility while seemingly space walking in zero gravity, I held my breath. Their otherworldly skills drew us in for an unbelievable treat!   Suddenly the planets burst revealing contortionists inside as color, motion and music pulsed through every inch of the room, from floor to ceiling! Suddenly there are no rings, no boundaries, no pre-conceived notions!    To help us travel safely through this new uncharted outer space, we follow the story of Paolo who searches the galaxy in search of performers worthy of joining The Greatest Show on Earth®! However, he has an adversary in the form of an intergalactic circus queen who is keen on building The Greatest Show of any Galaxy!
 Immediately some stars take sides with dramatically different outcomes. Then the race begins to visit the many planets to round up the various stellar circus acts.   Many acts seem comfortably familiar and expected for a circus until you realize the performers blew the top off and flew to a higher level!


Trampoline acrobats and stilt walkers circle the ring… on ice skates; more motorcyclists than should fit together race… inside a small metal spherical cage; clowns juggle rings… while upside down; human pyramids form… while on horseback thundering around the ring.   Finally, their app! So fun, it lets you know what’s coming and entertains during downtime. My favorites are the photo booth and unscrambling games!

Me, fulfilling my life-long dream to be a circus clown! They ran the show!

Ringling Bros is near Los Angeles until August 7 so get tickets now! For a discount, check the events page

KEEPING UP WITH THE KID ACTION: POKÉMON GO WTF!

WTF: Way Too Funtastic!PokeGoLogo

Before night falls, there is a good chance you will cross paths with Pokémon Go, and ponder whether to wander along after it.  I never watched or played Pokémon (gasp!), but became hooked by the funtastic AR (augmented reality) app upon spotting my first Pokémon. Follow me…

*Topics with an asterisk will be discussed in a future post – coming soon! If you have specific questions, leave them in the comments below!

 

WHAT THE…
When app opens you’ll see a cartoon GPS map of where you’re standing, except the app reveals things you’ve never seen before. Whoa!

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WHAT ARE THOSE?

POKÉSTOPS:
LOOK LIKE: A little blue table with a blue cube floating above it. Click on them to see what landmark it features. As you get closer, it opens up to a rotating, blue flat Pokémon ball.
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WHADDYA DO: Click to open it, then swipe to spin the center part with the picture. When things pop out of the ball, tap them to store in your bag*. These items help you catch or battle Pokémon*.
TIP: When purple, you’ve already collected items-come back later.

GYMS:
LOOK LIKE: Towering helipad with red, yellow or blue* spotlights and a Pokémon on top.
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WHADDYA DO
: Until you hit Level 5, nothing*. You can click on these and remember their locations.

FLUTTERING LEAVES:
LOOKS LIKE: Small bunch of green confetti – appears sporadically.
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WHADDYA DO: This indicates a Pokémon’s arrival, so safely make your way towards the green leaves.
TIP: On the bottom right of the screen you’ll see 3 Pokémons on a white strip. Tap on that to see several Pokémon with footprints that are nearby. As you walk closer, the number of feet will go down.
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FLOWER PETALS POURING FROM POKÉSTOPS:
LOOKS LIKE: Pink confetti (Appears for up to 30 min.). PokeGopost1stops
WHADDYA DO: This was a Lure Module activated by another player to lure Pokémon here. Hang out, you’ll catch a bunch! You, too, have a lure module in your bag* to activate a Pokéstop. Other players see it and show up.

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TIP: Catch multiples of Pokémon to help evolve them to stronger Pokémon*.

HOW TO MOVE
Walk, run, or drive (put down phone while moving)! If you walk, you may meet other players! There are game benefits of walking*.

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HOW TO AVOID REAL DANGER

  • Look both ways before crossing streets
  • Travel with a pack of friends or parent
  • Don’t go into isolated places or strangers’ homes

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SUBSCRIBE SO YOU DON’T MISS THE NEXT STEP:  HOW TO CATCH/MANAGE POKÉMON and WHAT’S IN MY BAG?

Please share if you have a friend trying to get into the game but you don’t have time to stop and explain it to them because you have Pokémon to catch!

#PokemonGo #Nintendo #Niantic Labs #Pokémon #PokémonGoApp #PokemonGoDown

THE GREATEST SHOW ON EARTH® FLIES OUT OF THIS WORLD!

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This week, Ringling Bros. and Barnum & Bailey (RBBB) celebrates their 146th year of wow-ing audiences by launching The Greatest Show on Earth!® to a new dimension: Out of This World! Few long-lasting well-loved brands or shows last through decades, much less generations, because of how quickly tastes change. Yet Ringling Bros. manages to remain a family custom by honoring their traditions, feeling the hearts of their guests and creatively redefining themselves. We’re fortunate to have the world-premiere here in Los Angeles on Thursday July 14 – but check www.ringling.com to find out when they’re rocketing to you!

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Let’s start with the elephant in the room, the elephants have left the circus tent. Animal care was always a priority with Ringling Bros. and they entrusted their elephants with the best professionals in veterinary and elephant care, as well as educated the public on elephant conservation. Still, due to public grumbling over perceived issues with their elephant’s treatment, they retired them from the show. Though the elephants were a traditional part of the show, the numerous remaining traditions will lead Ringling Bros. to new dimensions.

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In Ringling Bros. tradition, they promise to deliver a show with the same awe-inspiring acrobatics, exhilarating equestrians, beautifully big cats, death-defying daredevils and much more to keep your jaw open in amazement!  Some intangible, but definitely noticeable, traditions are the presence of 2nd or 3rd generation performers so the show has the same comfortable feel we’re used to – despite suddenly expanding their acts to all-new playing fields!

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To keep up with today’s hi-tech society, this circus promises a more interactive and immersive story experience and less of a, well, 3-ring circus. Amazing electronic screens and a colorful ice surface grabbing guests’ attention pulling us into the amazing story of good vs. evil told while exploring extraordinary new worlds on distant planets of ice, fire, sand and water.  The audience will witness an aerial “space walk” in zero-gravity, a clown performing his antics on a pole 5 stories up, and Chinese acrobatics – while on ice skates.

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How cool is this, too, that Ringling Bros. launches their new space show only 9 days after spaceship Juno landed on Jupiter?!  Gives me a kizmetingle…  

For a discount code for ordering your tickets, click here!

#RinglingBros

ARE YOU AN INFLUENCER? POSITIVE?!

I don’t know about you, but when something good happens to me, I share the information and experience to spread the joy! If I find a product, shortcut or upgrade, I regale about it to my circle of friends! We all support each other through “being grown-up” so why not give each other an advantage?  
As a fellow blogger, writer, mother I’m not going to insist you do anything to take you to your next level. Everyone’s traveling a unique and different path. Still, since I’ve found some ways to earn fun perks, or a great excuse to push back from our keyboards for a party, I’m going to give you the down low. What you do next is up to you.   

 Influenster leans towards trying products – whether you love them or would love to try them – then sharing on multiple social media platforms. Influenster scores you based in your social media followers to determine how to best work with your areas of influence. They have virtual campaigns where you get a coupon to try something, perhaps attend a Twitter party to learn more, then a list of tasks for you to complete to “earn” campaign points. VoxBox – a box of goodies based on your interests – arrives at your door. 

 

#SuperMomVoxBox

 
My #SuperMomVoxBox had a collection of known brands’ products. I loved trying new things from brands I already trust. Some brands ask for specific tasks to complete, some offer choices so you customize your campaign. Winning campaigns may earn more product. Visit: http://www.influenster.com/r/1777191 

 This company orchestrates House Parties: Host a party for your friends. They provide the product and materials to host a fun themed party! Chatterboxes blow up social media in a creative ways around a brand. They guide you through specific tasks or mediums to cover. For either, you must apply for that brand’s campaign then do a few exercises to increase your chances of being picked. We’ve had a delicious time so far. Visit: https://www.houseparty.com 

Both offer convenient websites and phone apps. For me it’s a way to practice writing reviews (working towards reviewing events/destinations) and experimenting with social media. 

What sites do you work with? Any tips to share?

CIRCUS VARGAS: Be Present: It’ll Blow Your Mind!

These days live entertainment and family traditions find themselves competing with, and wondering how to beat, the virtual realities so many people live in. People shape their own ideal lives in social media or step into and succeed in any role in a make-believe dimension – how does one top that? Under the big top, Circus Vargas continues their tradition of impressing crowds daily with unbelievable yet true reality happening live right before their very eyes!  

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Leaving the real world outside behind, the mystical lights drew the kids in…

When you step through the Circus Vargas tent’s grand entrance into the dark interior, you can no longer see the rules and boundaries from daily life. Everything is possible!

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There are acts for everyone in the family! This one is for the ladies – tall, dark and handsome gymnasts!

Ticket takers and snack vendors have fanciful flirty makeup teasing about the magical evening to come. People are not defined by one role!

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Juggling this 2-D figure was amazing but the magic started when he picks up the 3-D cube!

Encompassing the quaint one-ring circus stage, one can see hints of a stronger structure soaring into the upper points of the tent. There are no limits to Circus Vargas’ imagination!

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This show reaches new heights as your imagination soars with each new act!       WTF: Wow, They’re Flying!

The touring company is made up of the original Vargas family relatives, close friends, or long-time Circus Vargas family. Through the strength of their bond, you receive a thrilling and efficient show that keeps surprising you, act after act. At Circus Vargas, family comes first!

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A picture is impressive, to watch this unfold in reality is mind-boggling!

The show opens with a family-first reminder that when you unplug from your iDevices, you plug into the people and world around you. They warmed us up with mind-boggling contortionists! High-energy acrobats took the experience over the top with one press of a button, sending an electric pulse through the audience as their suits lit up! The show proves you can do whatever you set your mind on!

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Whether it’s hulahoops, motorcycling, or other daredevil acts, turning the lights off increases the danger and electricity!

The entertaining, well-choreographed show moved quickly through it’s breath-taking, sometimes dangerous, but always exhilarating acts, with a fantastic duo providing comedy and musical relief between acts.  Be present, it’ll blow your mind!

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Seeing two motorcycles travel the inner globe is exhilarating, but your senses will race when the lights go out!

Finally, Circus Vargas has heart! At every stop, they contribute to local charities. At our performance, Olive Crest was given the  time to share their mission with the audience and that opportunity is priceless – for real.

Circus Vargas Opens TOMORROW in Woodland Hills,, CA. To see when Circus Vargas’ big top will come to your town, check frequently at www.circusvargas.com

MIDLIFE MOTHER’S DAY REMIX

Am I the only one who was glad to not be harshly yanked from my dream of driving down a scenic cliff side road in a vintage convertible with sun on my face, breeze in my hair only to find cinnamon toast showering her sheets as the kids get ready to rumble?

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Even as  youngsters, holidays never started at the crack of dawn. For my now tween and teen – Rewritten Mother’s Day rituals (as they dawned on me today):

Sleep in or entertain yourselves until the clock passes 10am – This morning I am loving watching them sleep, listening to their snoring like I used to when they were babies in their cribs. Advanced kid move: If you wake up early, silently read in bed or make a list of 10 things you love to do with Mom.

The little (free) things matter most – While I love any great adventure that the kids dream up, please know that one sibling-bicker-free day, not having to repeat myself/find it for you or the gift of a longer-than-fleeting smile while your games reload makes me feel rich! Advanced kid move: Good long hugs earn you almost anything.

Leave no trace – As the amazing day you planned draws to an end, put the house back into better shape than when you found it without Mom lifting a finger. Cinnamon toast in bed – you strip the sheets and wash them. After the celebrations make time pass too quickly – go work on your homework without being told so her glow doesn’t turn to glowering. Advanced kid move: Set up the next day in advance so Mom eases her way into Monday, too – backpacks and sports gear packed, clothes out, lunches made (bonus points if you make Mom’s lunch), coffee machine locked and loaded.

cleanAll Mom’s deserve days of appreciation for their relentless dedication! For me, laying in bed since I woke up 3 hours ago, blogging from bed, looking forward to watching a mom rom com and take a walk together will be the best Mom’s Day yet.

Photo by SprayedOut.com

Here’s to you (& single Dads who mother too) and those many who support you all in being the best mom’s ever! Thanks to my kids whom I love more than words and who truly amaze me every day!

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